Raising children with your ex isn’t always easy. Despite the challenges the adults face, it’s usually better for the kids if they do have both parents there with them. There are ways that parents can make co-parenting easier.
One of the most important rules is that you have to focus on the children. It’s easy to fall into the habit of thinking about what your ex did in the past. Unless those actions play a role in your co-parenting, there’s no reason to do that. Instead, leave the past alone.
Communicate clearly and calmly
Communication is sometimes a big challenge for co-parents. Instead of speaking harshly or getting petty, you should treat the co-parenting relationship almost like a business matter. Make sure that you’re being concise in what you say and that you’re being calm. Getting upset or having an attitude will usually have a negative impact on the situation.
Document the decisions you make
Once you and your ex come to an agreement about something, document it. You may not ever need to refer to the documentation, but having a record of things may help you if there’s ever a misunderstanding about anything.
Create a conflict resolution plan
There are bound to be times when you and your ex can’t agree on a solution to an issue. Having a conflict resolution plan, such as mediation, in your parenting plan might be beneficial. You may also have a stipulation that unless it’s an emergency, the adults will take a break to think about the possibilities. The more detailed the parenting plan terms in your agreement, the better you’re likely to fare in your co-parenting journey.